Kelly and I met during our sophomore year at Western. I found myself at her apartment one night, and per the usual small talk (What year are you? Where are you from? What's your major/minor?), we realized we were both studying exactly the same thing. There is something to be said for people you meet while in college; there is an automatic connection because you will inevitably have something in common with them. We, they, are a dime a dozen. But to meet someone who is spending their time writing the same papers, having the same discussions and thought processes as you are, it takes your friendship to an entirely different level. As is the case with Kelly and I.
Over the course of the last three years, we have spent hours upon hours chatting about everything from relationships to Janet's essays, to Obama and Dr. Dre, and of course, anything correlating with education-- which most things do. We took four baccalaureate classes together our senior year: Topics in Literature; Popular Culture, Teaching Literature in Secondary Schools, Studies in Verse, and Teaching Students with Special Needs in the Secondary Classroom, aka the worst class either of us have ever taken. Seriously, the WORST CLASS ever. Which is saying a lot, being that it was a 4 credit class and you need at least 122 credits to graduate. That means that out of about 36 classes, this one was the worst. That takes some serious [lack of] effort. Nito and I would just sit there, for three hours a week, wondering how the hell a high school educator was getting paid to teach an upper-level education course to college students. F that. Seriously. It still pisses me off that it was such a waste of our time.
So on top of having taken these classes together, Nito and I were also given the Adolescent Literature Award, recommended to us by two of our favorite professors, Dr. Webb and Dr. Nash. One of the reasons we had initially bonded was because we had both had Dr. Nash for Adolescent Literature. She was one of those professors who, to put it quite simply, shook shit up. Some of the best discussions I ever had were in her classes, and she was such an inspiration as a professor that I took three of them in total. Nito and I had both taken the Adolescent Lit class at different times, but had both read the same book she had assigned, The Diary of a Teenage Girl. When we then took Teaching Literature in Secondary Schools with Dr. Webb, for our final project, we grouped together with three other girls to create a teaching unit based around the theme of literature and sexuality (if you click this link, you will be taken to the website we made for the project; still really, really proud of it). Because Kelly and I had interwoven a novel we were taught in Dr. Nash's Adolescent Lit class, and then used it as our base text for our final project in Dr. Webb's class, the two professors decided we should be given the Adolescent Literature Award. And there you have it. Super sweet. Kelly is someone who, whether she knows this or not, had always challenged me in the classes we took together. She almost always got higher grades than me on papers (for every 92% I got, she got a 96%). She made me want to work harder. Being given an award with her from two established professors was, to me, a highlight of my college career.
Then there was last summer. Kelly and I went to Rothbury, Michigan's first festival, with six other friends. I could wax poetic about my time there... the 36 hours of non-stop dancing, watching The Wailers, 311, and Dave Matthews all in one day, the conversations, the people... but, I won't. Suffice it to say it was one of the best times of my life.
Us on Saturday at Rothbury. Dirty and slightly intoxicated, in the middle of swaying to Michael Franti, and about 3 hours until Dave Matthews.
So, Nito, here's to you; to the time we've spent together, to academia, and to the many, many hours I am sure we will spend chatting daily/nightly about the men and women in our lives. You are the shit. I love you!
Laura!
ReplyDeleteFor one thing, I am deeply moved and quite honored. Which you already know, because I just told you via AOL instant messenger. Which, as I also just mentioned, is an absolutely amazing function of the internet (albeit obsolete, admittedly so) that seemingly everyone has, by this point, moved on from and long outgrown. It is a gem, classic and timeless. Which is why I'm not surprised at all that in these crazy days of twitter, facebook chat, status updates, texting, et al, you, classic and timeless yourself, still find time in the morning (night for me) to sit in front of your computer, BROWSE the net for things to digg and stumbleupon (and celebrity misfortunes to gawk at), and AIM it up, like the old days. So kudos to you, my friend.
Moving along- I think I would be beating a dead horse to belabor any longer on the utter monstrosity that SPED turned out to be, or to sing the praises of Dr. Nash and laud her name on highest to any further extent. You hit the nail on the head with that shit, enough said.
I will, however, take the time to reflect on some standout moments from the aforementioned highs and lows of our college careers-
worst first- when I was dealing with a relationship crisis right in the midst of a mother fucking guest speaker in SPED and up and bounced out of class offering no explanation other than that i was feeling ill and had to go. I love how i didn't need to elaborate or excuse myself to you because you were basically like "yea i gotchu" when i post-dipset texted you and attempted to explain myself.
Dr. Nash's class- A certain woman of faith staring us down with pious judgment when we'd offer up a comment that teetered anywhere NEAR the OUTLANDISH notion that perhaps, just maybe, the mere freedom to choose a life of promiscuity is a step out from under the patriarchal stronghold of our society. Or anything like that, really. I think eventually we just ended up crafting comments directly for her ears and addressing them TO her with eye-contact and all, stated our cases, and waited for the amazing adrenaline rush of Dr. Nash's nod of approval (we're such well-trained puppies!). And how we actually attempted to craft a logical, authentic and humanistic response to her hypothetical question about why white people like Tupac.
Dr. Webb went wild for our young co-ed selves. Lets not kid ourselves. Nevertheless, we deserved that award. *pats self on back/cyber-daps you*
So, Rothbury. Hardly a flash of memory other than dancing under that fellow's stilts shortly before/after that picture was taken (the concept of time was beyond me) and you in your tent, caring for a certain someone deep in the midst of a cataclysmic, synthetically-induced inner odyssey, so to speak. I yearn for Summer and music.
Moreover, you're also my only friend who was a fan of Lotus through your own musical journey, long before I exposed you to it. Good job!
I was really sad when you left Kalamazoo because I felt like our friendship had just reached a new awesome level. But the fact that you are in South Korea is an absolute inspiration to me and I'm so proud of you for having such an adventurous spirit. I believe it challenges me in the way my academia challenged you- when I ask myself what I want from life I find myself searching my soul for my inner Raura (Keh-rry, i suppose?) to tell me to go do something wild.
I'm glad we keep in touch, too. I think about you and what's goin on with you and your life every day! If you do come back (which, I admit, i really hope you do) you'll have to visit me wherever i find myself a year from now.
Now that we've basically confessed our love to each other in front of the whole blogiverse, don't be a stranger!
-Nito
Hey, Nito still:
ReplyDeletePS- Http://makeshiftshapeshift.blogspot.com
starting up. not really intended for followers just whoever happens to stumble upon it. you get a sneak preview.
As always wonderful to read. I remember very well you coming back from Rothbury that summer up north and being amazing from it all!
ReplyDeleteThe link for the school project did work, but for all of you who wanted to see it I was facebook chating with Laura and here is the link that works:
thesexgroup.googlepages.com
Friendships like these and the comfort and challenges of experiences shared are one of the best things you can hope for out of college years. No matter where your lives take you, you will always treasure those times and know that you are better because of them and because of each other. Luck, lucky, girls with destinies still unknown but secure in the knowledge that you take each other with you...always.
ReplyDeleteLaura,
ReplyDeleteToo bad about the wasted money and hours in the sped class since teachers entering the field need to learn plenty about special needs students in gen ed classes. Very disappointing for a university to employ such a poor instructor.
Sounds like you and Kelly are kindred spirits with the makings of a lifelong friendship.